Monday, June 01, 2009 @ 6:54 PM
BOO! this is a post i copied paste from Matthew's blog. I find it interesting, so maybe i'd just wanna share with you bloggers out there . CHEERS!Friday, May 22, 2009
Friends Forever?
Friends drift apart all the time. Groups of friends you might have known from childhood, secondary school, poly or university will dwindle over time for varied reasons. You could be the "best of friends", sharing personal secrets and hanging out almost everyday but become complete strangers the very next moment..
People change, priorities defer, situations occur.. we change.
Friendship is really just one of those undefinable words that mean different things to different people at different times. Most friendships are transient, they come and go with time and place. Acquaintances may turn into friends, friends may turn into strangers.
Its such a pity but sometimes, some friendships are just not meant to last. I personally don't believe in the whole calling each other "best friends forever" nonsense. Its a childish fantasy which one will only look back on with regret when things don't work out..
Imagine if you go around declaring that a certain person is your "bff" but after a petty quarrel, you never speak to each other ever again. That'll be a huge joke. True friendship doesn't need to be broadcasted with such terms, its simply a special relationship between you and whoever.
Most times, friends fall out because of a misunderstanding. I guess we sometimes fail or refuse to see both sides of the story. But all it simply takes, is just for you to put your pride and ego aside and take the first step in finding out both perspectives.
Have a heart to heart talk and thrash things out face to face, not talk behind each other's back and creating a series of negative repercussions. Its all these bitching over a certain misunderstanding that destroys friendships and relationships.
And even if resolving the friendship is beyond hope, we shouldn't ever kiss-and-tell. Certain friendships may not always have a happy ending, but their past values should never be negated.
Incidents will sometimes happen, but the secrets and memories shared should always remain special. Its stupid to deny or tarnish the value of a friendship just because it ends.
Its also extremely degrading when you start dishing out all the secrets in a fit of emotional fury or just because you want revenge. It says alot about you if you do that. I really don't think we should ever disrespect another in the eyes of others just because they longer fit into your life.
The thing is, we are actually a sum total of all our friendships, past and present, mixed together with our own peculiar personality. Every single person we've met along the way, no matter how long we've known them or how much we've shared during those times, have definitely made us who we are today in little ways we might not even have realized ourselves..
All these people are there for a reason. They give meaning and often leave an impact at various stages of our lives. And its all these special moments that are to be treasured because although friendships may not always last forever, its these memories that do.
Hmm its been quite a while since I last spent time or even had an actual conversation with a few friends. Its something I'm determined to make an effort to over time. Keeping a relationship or friendship alive takes effort from both sides. And its not just the amount of time you spend with them, but the quality of it.
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When was the last time you really spent time with your best friend(s)? When was the last time you offered them a hug to tell them you're there for them? When was it that you last told them how much you love them and cherish the friendship?
